Aimless Deliberation

So, it probably is not the best idea to write a post when your emotions are everywhere but we’re here anyway.    What I want to talk about today is giving.   What are your thoughts?   For me, I thought giving was about doing things for others with no return. Meaning that you do not only do so because you can but because someone or something came to you with the need. Maybe my thoughts are too simplistic, but I don’t feel that you can opt to “give” something then come back at a later date or time then hold that over someone’s head.  If you give to someone and expect something in return, you should define that upfront and let them make their choices from there. You can’t have these things in your head and never express or share your expectations; that is unfair to everyone involved in the exchange. Just thinking out loud...via the internet.  Thoughts/comments?

When I saw the word scent, my mind immediately went to a small house sitting on the pacific ocean on the Oahu island.  Scent is a powerful thing; it sparks forgotten memories and emotions.  It’s amazing how that works. So many great memories with scents.  I think of the elephant ears that the seaway festival when I was in my hometown; my husband’s cologne when he kisses me goodbye when he’s headed to work; nephew Desmond’s hair when we used to babysit him; our old house.  Such a truly awesome sense. Quote of the Day “Smell is a potent wizard that transports you across thousands of miles and all the years you have lived” -Helen Keller

Books as a part of my life.   As far back as I can remember, I’ve always love to read books.   My mom tells stories about how I used to sit in the library for hours then bring at least ten books home every month.   What’s the fascination?   It’s the stories, the characters, the plots.   When I was younger, it was probably more of an escape for me, a place for my dreams.   I even wrote short stories of my own.   Now, I think it still serves as an escape or a place of my own.   It’s where I can go to clear my head of everyday stresses. I won’t say that I don’t watch a lot of TV, but I am usually not up to speed on current shows.   I tend to watch streaming television in spurts.   When I find a show that I like (typically funny), I must watch it until its done. What I found is that I watch TV like I read books.   It must be something that doesn’t consume my mind and heart, basically nothing too heavy.   Not to say that I don’t read heavy books at all; I just sprinkle in more light

Being a person focused on helping others, I find myself in many situations where I have the chance to teach and/or learn.   These opportunities present themselves often and in the smallest forms and are so often missed.   Traditional thought approaches teaching and learning as something that happens mainly in a classroom or at home, even in earlier stages in life.   But learning is an ever-evolving aspect of life.   Case in point, I am learning a new role at work; it involves new business partners, new focus, a new team, new customers and new skills.   Everyday, I am exposed to something new.   But, what I’ve also learned (through the help of a couple of colleagues) is that I am in a position to teach a few new managers.   Things that they are experiencing or up against, I’ve managed through and was successful.   So, rather than simply telling them that I understand and move on to what’s most important to me, I try to offer not an answer but an ear, support, perspective and in

We are in very unusual and uncertain times and have had to adjust in many ways.   For most, it’s been tough.   I’m not saying that it’s been a piece of cake for us but we still have each other, shelter, food, and our health.   Our families are doing well and have the same.   But for some, it’s been tougher. My best friend’s mom is experiencing some challenges with her health and my friend can’t be with her (about 200 miles away).   She is getting information second-hand, is over-stressing and has no outlet.   Another friend lost her grandmother last Thursday.   She lives about 400 miles from her family.   She can’t go home, she can’t be with her mother, they can’t even have a funeral right now.   These situations truly bite.   I can’t imagine how hard this time is for either of them right now.   My heart goes out to both them and their families. It’s easy to focus on ourselves and what we want; complain about the inconvenience.   That energy is wasteful.   Don’t forget about

So, I guess my husband was right… I do spend a lot of my time orchestrating my life.   From personal, professional and volunteer relationships, I spend a great deal of time ensuring that the needs of others are met.   Need to check-up on someone, I have a plan or reminder for that.   Need some guidelines for a meet and greet?   I have some talking points.   Need to get the parents some essential items?   I’m your girl and Amazon’s my best friend.   😊   Team feeling unheard? Hey, I’m here, let me help.   It’s important to me to connect, to help and to resolve; these things motivate me.   So, I guess I do spend a lot of time in ‘coordination’ mode… now, if only I could execute.   Quote of the Day “Your first and foremost job as a leader is to take charge of your own energy then to help orchestrate the energy of those around you.” -Peter Druckers