Family, Friends and everyone else...

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So, I know it's been a while since the last post. So, here it goes... Some will be rambling and some may make complete sense.

I am trying to figure out when or how we can get to a place where everyone is okay being who they are.  I have figured out that many people (sometimes through no fault of their own) are really shady and dishonest.  Most of the time it's because people just aren't okay with who they are.  They are desperately trying to be the person that everyone notices, the person with the nicest clothes, the person who makes a lot of money, the person who is always funny, the person that can sing or dance, essentially the person that IS NOT THEM.

Why does this bother me so much?  It bothers me because I spend a lot of time caring for others, trying to love them as the person that they are and end up being the one that people try to take advantage of, only call when they need something, or just plain don't like me because I am too nice, too honest, or too whatever the reason.

Well, after talking to my husband, I am refocusing my time on those that love me and that I love and I am no longer concerning myself.  I have some friends that make it a point to call me, check on me, invite me to whatever, and they deserve my time.

Hopefully, the others will figure it out in time enough to enjoy life and love.

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