Much like the Blogspot itself... random
Friend: "I am truly excited about this stage of my life and I just wish those that cared for me were as well"
Me: "I understand and know where you are coming from. It is hard for people to get beyond jealousy or envy regardless of your relationship with them"
Friend: "But Tammy I don't understand, they truly adored Greg"
Me: "They didn't adore him, they adored the fact that you were in a relationship where you could never truly be happy, which meant that you would never be in a better place than them."
Why would I say something like that? Unfortunately, it is because I really feel like it is true most days. See "Greg" is a married man that had no intention of leaving his wife and my friend was depressed and lonely most of the time. My friend made the decision that she deserved better and worked to find that, which she truly feels that she has. Is it my place to question or judge that? Or try to tear it down? What benefit do I gain by trying to tear down another's happiness?
Me: "You need to communicate and get support from your husband. Everything from here on out should be a collaborative effort between you and him. Do not let the thoughts and words of others unduly influence or drive the decisions you make within your marriage. It isn't fair to your husband or your marriage."
I don't profess to have all of the answers or to know who was meant to be together and who wasn't. What I do know is that a relationship cannot not work if two people aren't trying to work together to build it. Building it includes respect, communication, honesty, trust, compromise, and love. If you aren't ready to give that... walk away.
Every stage of our lives brings new challenges and opportunities. With each stage, there is risk that relationships with friends and family may weaken while others get stronger. Understand that that is a part of life; it called development or growth.
Me: "I understand and know where you are coming from. It is hard for people to get beyond jealousy or envy regardless of your relationship with them"
Friend: "But Tammy I don't understand, they truly adored Greg"
Me: "They didn't adore him, they adored the fact that you were in a relationship where you could never truly be happy, which meant that you would never be in a better place than them."
Why would I say something like that? Unfortunately, it is because I really feel like it is true most days. See "Greg" is a married man that had no intention of leaving his wife and my friend was depressed and lonely most of the time. My friend made the decision that she deserved better and worked to find that, which she truly feels that she has. Is it my place to question or judge that? Or try to tear it down? What benefit do I gain by trying to tear down another's happiness?
Me: "You need to communicate and get support from your husband. Everything from here on out should be a collaborative effort between you and him. Do not let the thoughts and words of others unduly influence or drive the decisions you make within your marriage. It isn't fair to your husband or your marriage."
I don't profess to have all of the answers or to know who was meant to be together and who wasn't. What I do know is that a relationship cannot not work if two people aren't trying to work together to build it. Building it includes respect, communication, honesty, trust, compromise, and love. If you aren't ready to give that... walk away.
Every stage of our lives brings new challenges and opportunities. With each stage, there is risk that relationships with friends and family may weaken while others get stronger. Understand that that is a part of life; it called development or growth.
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