Aimless Deliberation

For those of you that don’t know, some of my posts here are specifically requested by someone else.   That being said, this post and the next were to have specific topics.   However, I have to deviate for a moment to talk about helping others.   Side Note for my brother-in-law - This post may be lengthy but let me have just a few more minutes of your time and read it anyway. J Now back to the post… In a couple of my earlier posts, I provided insight into who I am and my thoughts on my life.   For this post, I would like to talk about why that is important to me.   Hopefully, I can wrap it back around to the title of this post.   Regardless of our desire to “stay out of other people’s business”, we are in it every time we open ours mouths to discuss someone else.   In these conversations, I always try to be fair in my commentary and consider the person at hand (this piece requires me knowing that person).   I try to avoid negativity ...

As you can see, I am not going to be able to post my updates to my journal everyday.   1) You guys are going to get tired of me (because you just don't want to know me that well).   2) I don't know that I will have meaningful posts everyday (and I don't know that I am ready to share that much at this point) Nevertheless, today's question was this:  Today was tough because...   Today was tough because I can't understand why some people seem to be incapable of giving others time and space to cope, deal, just to themselves to asses their situations.   I know, I know, so let me explain.  My friend and co-worker lost her younger brother last night (totally unexpected).  She sent a note to us to let us know.  First thing this morning, people (really one person in particular) are standing in my office asking "Have you talked to her?", "Do you have the arrangements?", "Do you have her address?".  Then, the person runs off and tells ...

January 2 Question: Can people change? Considering that both Jamie and I have changed and that I spend 80% of my time at work developing people, my answer is yes, people can change.  I know that many people will not agree with my answer but oh well.   Things to note about my answer in order for it to happen, people have to: Believe change is needed Want to change Work at change Accept setbacks Understand feedback Things that should be considered when thinking about change are that it will not happen overnight and support is required.  Those two things seem to be the hardest thing about change in general. I am trying to make my posts a little shorter because I got feedback that some of them are too long.  I apologize in advance for the length but I wanted to share one of the poems that I wrote for Jamie a while ago. He... is the pitter-patter of feet on my heart ... the laughter ringing in my ears He is the joy glittering in my eyes He... i...

I purchased a 5-year journal a long while ago for a young person in my life was never able to gift it.  Nevertheless, the journal is a "Q&A" journal that asks a different question every day.  I am hoping this works out well and will let you know how it is going as often as I can First questions for the first day of the year:  What is your mission? At first, I thought this was a very difficult question.  After thinking through all the things that I have dealt with in my life, I realized it wasn't as difficult to answer as I was making it. My mission is simple.  My mission/ambition is to enjoy a fulfilled life with my husband (the strongest family I have).  So, there it is people, it seems easy enough, doesn't it?  Several situations/challenges come along with that ambition but having it at the forefront of my mind helps me to stay focused.  Diversions and missteps are not able to cause serious delays in my journey. I am thinking...