Can People Change?

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January 2 Question: Can people change?

 Considering that both Jamie and I have changed and that I spend 80% of my time at work developing people, my answer is yes, people can change.  I know that many people will not agree with my answer but oh well.  

 Things to note about my answer in order for it to happen, people have to:

  • Believe change is needed
  • Want to change
  • Work at change
  • Accept setbacks
  • Understand feedback
Things that should be considered when thinking about change are that it will not happen overnight and support is required.  Those two things seem to be the hardest thing about change in general.

 I am trying to make my posts a little shorter because I got feedback that some of them are too long.  I apologize in advance for the length but I wanted to share one of the poems that I wrote for Jamie a while ago.
He... is the pitter-patter of feet on my heart
... the laughter ringing in my ears
He is the joy glittering in my eyes

He... is the radiant sunlight stomping out my tears
... the stars gleaming throughout my moonlit skies
He is the soothing touch that healed my pain

He... is the sweet aroma drifiting in the midst of an orchard
... the thrilling sensation running down my spine
He is the tranquility engulfing my mind

HE IS THE QUINTESSENCE OF LIFE!!!
By Tamira L. Morris

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