Today was tough because...

-
As you can see, I am not going to be able to post my updates to my journal everyday.  

 1) You guys are going to get tired of me (because you just don't want to know me that well).  
2) I don't know that I will have meaningful posts everyday (and I don't know that I am ready to share that much at this point)

 Nevertheless, today's question was this:  Today was tough because...  

 Today was tough because I can't understand why some people seem to be incapable of giving others time and space to cope, deal, just to themselves to asses their situations.  

 I know, I know, so let me explain.  My friend and co-worker lost her younger brother last night (totally unexpected).  She sent a note to us to let us know.  First thing this morning, people (really one person in particular) are standing in my office asking "Have you talked to her?", "Do you have the arrangements?", "Do you have her address?".  Then, the person runs off and tells everyone she can talk to then starts pinging me.  Really?  Do you think I spent hours talking to her last night or this morning?  She had to break the news to her parents, try to get answers from the coroner's office, and head down to Alabama.  Oh and her brother passed in Chicago by himself.  

 It really frustrated me.  Don't get me wrong I am not trying to be mean or insensitive and I understand that people just want to show concern and support. My thoughts are this, before you take action, consider if the situation was yours, what would you prefer from others?  This consideration can help in almost every situation that you face involving others.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Why we still in these streets?

-
Just a few weeks ago, the counts of confirmed Coronavirus (COVID-19) cases in Shelby county was less than 10.   Today, the county is close to 700.   So, I just gotta ask, why are we still traipsing around here as if this is not a big deal?   I know, I know… I too thought it’s simply a strand of the flu that we haven’t solved for (and that may still be the case).   However, when numbers are increasing as quickly as they are right now, even I have to say, “Really guys, how long are we going to do this?”   Don’t get me wrong, I am the most social person of my marriage and understand that we all have people that we like to see and hang out with.   We’ve been asked to limit social interactions, “Shelter in place”, for two weeks and we cannot comply.   Meanwhile, I have parents at high risk, family members that have to go into a hospital to not only assist but themselves at risk, yet even I have not totally committed to “sheltering in place.”   I...
More »

Guess whose back...

-
Ok so, I know I’ve been missing in action for a long while now.  In my defense (because yes, I must defend myself 😊 ), 2020 was a whirlwind of a year.  Even beyond the pandemic, I had several things that occurred then began to pile up. I started a new job in which my goal was to stand up a department and processes to support a sales channel shift. I started a 9-month long leadership project that required a great deal of time outside of my normal job.   Wonderful experience but it required a great deal of evening and weekend work.    In the end, the team, our sponsors and our ExComm team were incredibly pleased with our work.   In fact, our ideas were implemented into the strategy and goals for that group; now that’s success! Once the pandemic hit, my husband and I had to figure out the best way for both of us to be comfortable and productive.   I was used to working from home, but he did not work from home often. T rust me, two people that have days j...
More »

Feedback: Supportive or Spiteful?

-
Wow!  In my attempt to let go of some entirely separate things this week, I stumbled upon a conversation about feedback (or honesty).  It’s an interesting situation to request feedback on one thing and receive an onslaught of unsolicited feedback about something totally separate. It’s interesting to be provided feedback of not being self-aware and unable to receive feedback, when no evidence is presented to support the accusation.   The most disappointing part of the ‘feedback’ is that it came from someone to whom I’ve shared insecurities, negative feedback, and unsolicited commentary.   To receive unsupported feedback like that from someone you trust feels spiteful and intent on purposely hurting me.   So, for me, it feels like commentary meant to either put me in my place or destroy my confidence.   Let me take a step the feedback came with a promise to point it out when it happens in the future.   I realize that I am not all-knowing, but I ...
More »